Letting go

One of the hardest things in all of this is letting go. If I let them go I feel like I am abandoning them, like I don’t care anymore. I know this is not true, we are not forsaking those lost by letting them go and moving on, I know we will still mourn their loss and still love them. I know I wouldn’t be forgetting them… But I am just not at that point I can let it go, it’s too new, still so overwhelming. I still cannot accept they have been ripped from our lives…
Some day I will….
But for now I am still just going through the motions.
I have lost “friends”, they thought I grieved too much, or didn’t want to listen to me grieve…. This hurt. And friends and family who just don’t talk to me any more, like maybe they just don’t know what to say but still…..
You can still talk to someone who grieves… They appreciate it. I want to hear about your life, problems… It does me good. Just because I grieve does not mean I have a diease or something.
If you don’t know wht to say to someone grieving how about “hello, was thinking of you.” Or “i care” or “hey, you feel like talking”
Ingoring someone who grieves doesn’t help things… It may just make them realize they cannot count you amoung their friends.
People who grieve tend to go through a phase where the world moves on and they don’t. Other people go through their life, they no longer “check in to see how you are and if you need anything” or just that you are in their thoughts…. The grieving person is still just going through the motions of every day life, making it minute by minute. They still struggle but now they struggle in silence.
I am lucky, I have two support groups on facebook for grieving mothers/grandmothers I go there and I know these women understand they know how I feel because they are going through it also…. It has helped me alot and I have made some good friends.
Some people struggle alone, in silence, because they have no one close who they feel they can talk to…. They feel their friends have forsaken them and even family doesn’t understand… These people I feel for, I pray they can find the strength to reach out to someone.